Most days have seen me bravely wear a skirt...(I add the brave in here because we have been undergoing what the meteorologists are calling a weather 'vortex' and a super cold pocket of air has been drifting up from Antarctica....no kidding!!)..and I've had very cold knees! One thing I've also noticed, despite the cold tushy and finding the need to wear pantyhose, is that skirts are sooooo comfortable! Who would have thunk it! They also hold so much more of your ex-baby padding in and it is so much more flattering for a real female figure.
I've noticed, in my usual travels, such as doing the food shop and running the kids around, that women just don't wear skirts nowadays. I mean they're out there, but I seriously have seen hardly any. I know it's not really happy skirt wearing weather, and perhaps I shall notice more in the spring and summer months, but it's quite an eye opener to see that so many women...stay at home mums in particular...just throw on a pair of daks and away they go. This nonchalant form of dressing also applies to hair and makeup. Mostly it's missing too. Understandably women today are under a lot of pressure to be and do everything. Have the career. Be a mum. Be a super wife....which all of this leaves little time to yourself to pay any attention to getting dressed in the morning. It's a shame that mums just let themselves go, and whether it happens slowly (which is usually the case), most don't notice the change and then one day look in the mirror and think "where did I go?" That snappy dresser and sassy woman... pre-husband and babies...has all but faded away.
For me I have realised that I just don't want to be all of it. I don't want to try and do everything. It's exhausting. When you do try and take on a career, husband and kids you start to spread yourself too thin and this is not healthy. Yes, I'm stepping back to be old fashioned but I am finding that I really like it. It's so less stressful.
So...I am dressing up. By this I don't mean silks and satins (how bizarre for the everyday!) but putting on a skirt and teaming it with a nice top. I'm also doing something a little more interesting with my hair...which is a challenge because I'm terrible at doing hair...(something to work on)..and...shock horror (!)...I'm even putting makeup on. A toned down version of a 1950s look, but makeup none the less. I am also conscious of making an effort for my husband too. When we stop caring about how we look it is like we aren't caring about what our partner thinks...that he should just settle for the frumpy bored housewife. By looking nice I feel better about myself and he comes home to a wife in a good mood and in a pretty skirt or dress. And I do know that he likes it....if the amount of times I've had my bottom pinched lately has anything to do with it!
So...here I am, updating my wardrobe a little..and having fun doing it (!)..having discovered lovely online shopping experiences such as ModCloth and Unique Vintage...both in the US..and also Wild Kitty Clothing in Australia. The other day I had this arrive due to a bit of eBay shopping...
..and it's the most flattering little top. I love the 3/4 sleeves. I promptly went and ordered another one in white. They weren't dear...eBay can be great like that...and it arrived within a few days. I'm being selective about colours and things..making sure that everything matches so I have complete outfits, rather than just random clothes that I like, but don't go together.
Wearing nice clothes like this makes me think of my Mum. She always dresses nicely. When I was little she always went up the street wearing a skirt or dress AND heels and full makeup. That was just how she dressed. Even now she's still full makeup, and although she doesn't wear skirts as much, she's always in tailored pants. Actually it kind of freaks me out on the rare occasions she wears jeans, which you'd only ever see her wear around the garden at home. She's the Audrey Hepburn of Gippsland! There was something my older sister once said too, about women who went out in sloppy clothes. It was a comment she made to my mum, about why would women bother going out looking like they've been dragged through a bush backwards when there are so many beautiful clothes to wear. She's so right. I have some lovely 'for best' clothes in my wardrobe, but because all I ever really do is the mundane day to day stuff, they never see the light of day. Such a shame. What you see in the photo above (the navy top and the red and blue skirt) is what I am wearing now typing this, and I am more comfortable than what I would be if I was in my normal jeans. No restrictive waistband around my middle and the baby padding trying to escape the confines of my shirt. All good!
I have also started dressing my little girl up more too. She has lots of summer dresses, which with a long sleeve top underneath, can be worn throughout the colder days. Yesterday she went out looking super sweet in a pale blue, pink and white dress with a little pale pink cardigan and tights, and she looked adorable. While I'm still in control of her wardrobe, (I'm going to make the most of it!) I will have her looking pretty and girly and enjoying being able to look this way.
I will not, however, do this to her...
What is your usual daily dressing style?